In the marriage, there is a cold war, with a way to resolve it that enhances the couple's feelings

There are two states of love or marriage: an idealized state and a realistic state.

There is an idealized state of love and marriage everywhere, and everyone has remote vibratingidealized expectations of love and marriage. However, people are different, and what you expect as an idealized state of love and marriage varies from what others expect.

Having said that, relationships are not just about one person. Although some loveremote vibrating and marriages do have a person at the center, they also do not necessarily make the decision. The other party is a living human being, not a machine, and has seven emotions, so there will be no absolute harmony between the two people, and disharmony is certain to accompany that.

There are many flavors in life: happiness, sorrow, sweetness and bitterness. Many remote vibratingpeople aspire to the idealized love and marriage, only joy, only sweetness, and really want you to be in this single relationship, you may not be able to suffer. Life allows you to eat sweets every day, but not oil and salt, can you stand it?

I really want to talk about idealized love and marriage, where two people can do remote vibratingcomprehensive treatment of all issues, joy and sorrow and sweet and sour can be endured together, not to disrupt, not to break up, and more reasonable, will not be unable to withstand the test of time.

Xiaoqing said something like this yesterday when she mentioned the cold war between her and her husband:

When he says he loves me, he still has a cold war with me. Isn't that contradictory? If he remote vibratingloves me, why does he fight with me?

Occasionally, it's not a big deal. For instance, I told him the other day not to try remote vibratingtoo hard at work, otherwise he'd work too hard for nothing. After we argued a few words, he suddenly stopped talking, and it was clear he was angry, so I asked him, but he replied, "I'm not angry, I just don't want to argue with you!"

This truth, does he not understand? I really can't stand him anymore, I really want to divorce him! If a man really loves a woman, he won't be willing to have a cold war with her!

"Do you think this is cold war? If he doesn't do this, but is angry with you, fighting with you to the death, then is that love?" Ah Qiang asked.

"It's not okay to be angry with me, but it's also not okay to be cold war with me," said Xiaoqing.

"So, am I right in assuming that you still DGAF about the 'rules'?" Ah Qiang asked, clearly skeptical of Zheng Tao's claims.

When it comes to their own problems, people usually resist and do not want to admit them, which is why Xiaoqing is speechless.

While Xiaoqing didn't speak, Qiang continued to express his views on "cold war between husband and wife":

Cold wars between couples are actually a norm. As long as they are maintained within a reasonable range, they should be allowed to continue. Not "really love you man, don't want to cold war with you", but: love you man, don't want to cold war for too long, not always cold war with you, not cold war after waiting for you to beg and.

Many women don't understand this level because they perceive love as: only men love women, women love men or not doesn't matter. And some women assume they love men, but in reality do not.

When men love you, and you do not love him, why are women so eager to be loved? If the official of the state sets fire to prevent the people from lighting the lamp, then the marriage appears to be a kind of tyranny, and without timely adjustment, one day the marriage will end in divorce.

There is no way to avoid a cold war between husband and wife, even if the law does not prevent it. After each other's emotions, despite a surface smile, psychologically there will still be a cold war, this is a normal phenomenon. When such things happen, it's important to observe how the two people react.

Despite the fact that the couple has a cold war, as long as it can be resolved in time, no matter who takes the initiative, each other to the matter, not to the person, to solve the problem after continuing to love, with this way to deal with, can enhance the feelings of the couple.

Don't confine your marriage to a small area!

In combination with Qiang's rebuttal, Xiaoqing's accusations and request to her husband can be considered human. However, when combined with her husband's response, Xiaoqing's demands become extremely authoritarian.

Our article yesterday talked about "empathy", specifically "think differently" and "put your heart in the right place".

Love and marriage are not individual matters. You can make demands on the other party, but the other party is entitled to make demands on you as well.

If lovers and couples only demand good, and then make reasonable demands of each other, with "empathy" to get along, then there is no "cold war". Cold wars are actually just a small issue, as long as they don't amplify the negative emotions inside, they will be fine with each other.

Many people say "cold war", either a negative emotion amplification, or not at all cold war, but the evidence of non-love. It is up to you to figure out what kind of problem has occurred in your relationship, in order to target to solve. If it really is not love, then what is the hesitation, break up or divorce is good. If only negative psychology is at work, then go to adjust the psychology, everything has a solution, you do not think about the solution, only thinking about the trouble, in the end will only be mediocre.